Ep 134: The Poison We Drink: Overcoming Resentment and Judgment

Are you drowning in the silent, heavy exhaustion of the roommate phase? Ready to sign divorce papers? Today’s episode is tackling the absolute marriage-killer: Resentment.

Relying strictly on the groundbreaking principles of Dr. Andrea Vitz’s "Emotional Sobriety" and the clinical research of Dr. John Gottman, we strip away the excuses and look in the mirror. We explore why your resentment is actually an internal emotional addiction, how it gives birth to the toxic judgment we see everywhere in today’s cancel culture, and why it is 100% your responsibility to overcome it.

Tune in for the exact tools you need to stop blaming your spouse, dismantle your own judgment, and find the profound freedom of owning your emotional state.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why resentment is an emotional addiction and how to get "sober."
•  "Judgment is not benign; it is born of resentment."
• How Gottman’s "Four Horsemen" (specifically Contempt) destroy emotional safety.
• Tangible steps to shift from toxic judgment to a culture of appreciation.

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Transcript

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Do you want a stronger, more connected marriage without having to schedule appointments, pay a hefty fee, or find a babysitter? Connected and Committed is a six-week self-study course designed to help you break unhealthy cycles, communicate with clarity, rebuild trust, and reignite intimacy on your own. Each week, you will dive into three powerful recorded coaching sessions, practical exercises, and expert back strategies that create lasting change. Whether you're feeling disconnected or just want to deepen your bond, this course is going to guide you every single step of the way. Purchase grants you lifetime access and can be done with your spouse or on your own. Invest in your marriage today. Visit the link in the show notes to learn more. Marriage isn't supposed to feel like roommates, but it doesn't have to feel like a war either. Hi, I'm Cameron Alricki, certified marriage coach and a relationship expert. Every week on Married and Connected, I bring you real talk, hard truths, and practical tools you can start using right away. Whether you've been married two years or 42, this is where you'll find hope, encouragement, and steps that actually work. So let's make your marriage feel good again, starting right now. Hey friend, welcome back to another episode of the Married and Connected podcast. I'm your host, Cameron Thompson Alaricki. And today I am so incredibly glad that you are here because we are going to jump into a very common topic that I see while working with couples. And it's going to be a little bit heavy. I'm not going to lie. It's going to feel like a gut punch, but I promise you, I promise you, that it is a punch delivered with so much love because I have been exactly where these couples are. That's what makes me so equipped to help them. And if you are someone who is dealing with a lot of resentment, I have been where you are too. I know where you're sitting. I know how bad it feels and how crappy you feel every single day. I also know that there is a profound amount of freedom on the other side of this. So again, today we are talking all about resentment, what it looks like, what it feels like, that tight chest when your husband walks through the door or your wife walks through the door. And immediately it's what are they not doing? What are they not doing well? It's the silent scorekeeping that you keep in your head all the time of who worked harder, who's carrying more, who paid for more, who's managing the kids more, who's sacrificing more. And you start to just feel like you are carrying the entire weight of the world on your shoulders. And your partner's just there hanging out, getting their cake and eating it too, existing. And this is more than that drifting into the roommate phase. It's not even a peaceful coexistence. It's like the Cold War in your home. And most people think that resentment is this natural byproduct of a partner who isn't pulling their weight. And we think, well, okay, if they would just help out more, if they would just anticipate my needs, we've been together for umpteen dozen million years. They should just know what I need. If they would be more present, I wouldn't be so angry. I wouldn't be, I wouldn't be resentful. If they would control their emotions, then I would be okay. And I'm gonna hold your hand when I say this. But whatever controls your emotions controls you. Whatever controls your emotions controls you. So if you are allowing yourself to not be okay because your partner's not okay, if you're allowing yourself to not be okay because they haven't met an expectation or a preference that you have, that's where your resentment comes from. Now, I'm going to tell you something that's probably gonna want to make you shut this off right now, but I beg you to stay with me because I promise you there is light at the end of the tunnel, and I'm gonna help you through this. But your resentment is not about your spouse. Your resentment is about you. Anything that you allow to control your emotions controls you. That means that if you allow your kids to get you so fired up that you start yelling, if you allow your husband or your wife to get you so mad that you shut down or yell or act passive aggressively or insert childish behavior here, they are controlling you. Your spouse and your children are controlling you. And today, that is why I'm doing this podcast episode because I want to help you strip away the excuses. I want to help you get the tools that you need. And we are relying strictly on transformative principles of emotional sobriety from Dr. Andrea Witz and the hard, undeniable clinical research of Dr. John Gottman, two of my absolute favorites in this space. And we are gonna look at where resentment actually comes from. We know that it's from us, but like why? Why is it from us? How it reads the kind of judgment that destroys marriages, how it is entirely our responsibility to clean up our side of the street, and how to actually do that. So let's jump into it. When we talk about emotional sobriety, again, this concept is pioneered by Dr. Andrea Vitz. She's been on the podcast multiple times. She's going to be on again here in a few weeks talking about maturity. We are talking about waking up from an addiction. And make no mistake, resentment is an emotion that we make, not a feeling. It doesn't just come in and go out like waves in the ocean. It is an emotion that is deep seated in our bones. And it is a chemical. It's a chemical that our body makes. And a lot of times, if you can look back and you can see, oh, yep, my parent was, or both of my parents, even, were super resentful. Their parents were resentful. My brother is resentful. My sister is resentful. You can see that resentment. And it works the same with all of uh with all other emotions too: anxiety, guilt, um, embarrassment, sadness, fear, all of these are the same chemical makeup in our body. We get this twisted chemical payoff from playing the victim. Victimhood is absolutely a familiar energy that is something that can be addiction addicting as well. And so we pass this down from generation to generation. Now, does that mean that because your mom was resentful, that you're gonna be resentful? No, it's not. But a lot of those habits that create the resentment are the reason we have the resentment now. So when you sit with that, when you sit in that resentment, you get to be the martyr. You get to be the good spouse, the one who's doing it all right, the one who's long-suffering. And it feels powerful to be right, doesn't it? But the emotional sobriety portion of this demands that we stop drinking that poison. Victimhood, being a martyr, being self-righteous, being the good spouse, all of those are self-beliefs, many of which are trauma induced from our childhood. That's what emotional sobriety covers. Before we jump too much further into this, if you are interested in working with Dr. Andrea Vets herself, please email me, coaching at recognizingpotential.com. If you are interested in working with me one-on-one to better your marriage, overcome your resentment, all the things, again, email me at coaching at recognizingpotential.com, and let's have a conversation around what either of those can look like for you. Because I will tell you, nothing has helped all of my relationships in life. Parenting, romantic, relationships with my parents, relationships with my brothers, all of that has been helped so much by going through this work. But emotional sobriety demands that we look in the mirror and realize that our emotional state is 100% our responsibility. It is not your fault what happened to you before the age of 18. But it is 100% your responsibility to work through that. And here's the example that I give quite frequently. When I'm working with a couple, one of the first examples that I give them in their very first session is that we're all born with a suitcase. And it's this imaginary suitcase that we, that we just drag around with us everywhere we go. And we stuff all of our experiences and our exposures and our education and all the things into it. And then when we find a partner, we get together and we dump both of our suitcases out in the middle of the living room floor and we start to sort through it and say, what are we gonna keep? What are we gonna shove in a closet where nobody can see? What are we gonna mold and adapt? What are we gonna mesh together with your experiences, exposures, and education? What are we gonna put out on a shelf for everybody to look at and admire when they come into our home? What are we going to completely throw away and burn? What are we gonna do? What are we gonna replace this with? All the things. Now, when we break up or we get a divorce in a hurried huff, we grab all of our stuff, but we end up grabbing some of their stuff too. And we shove it all in our suitcase and we take it on down the road to the next person. And what coaching does that is wildly different than therapy, is I help you, Dr. Vitz helps you unpack all of that. We help you unpack that, we help you sort through it and say, Do I even need this anymore? Is this adding more trauma to me than it's worth? Do I keep reliving that trauma? Or do I need to do something different? Where I've never believed that I've had a voice or a choice, or that I've been good enough, or that I'm lovable, or that I'm that I'm even rejectable in the first place. All of these things are common trauma-induced self-beliefs. And so when we go through those with you, we when we unpack them for you, when we uh give you other tools that can negate the lie, then you have the ability to never feel resentment again. When you feel resentment bubbling up because the kitchen is a mess, or because you feel unseen or unloved or rejected, your brain is having a reaction based on your internal narrative, based on those self-beliefs. Your own unmet expectations, your own refusal to set healthy boundaries or communicate cleanly. And maybe it's not even a refusal, maybe it's the fact that you don't know how. Maybe it's the fact that you grew up in a family that didn't have boundaries. You don't know what those look like. This is one of the most common things that I hear as well when people are thinking about working with me, is well, we're adults. We should just know how to have a happy marriage. Fantastic. I'm so glad that you're an adult. And also, maturity is not guaranteed just because we get older. Maturity is not guaranteed just because we are aging or we are growing physically. Maturity, like a good, healthy marriage, is learned. If you didn't have parents that were mature, emotionally, spiritually, financially, etc., how are you gonna learn how that how to do that? You didn't learn how to do it when you were living with them. How should you know? So when you say those words, well, we should just know how to do this. How? That's like saying, Well, I'm an adult, so I should just know how to speak Mandarin. Why? I've never been around anyone that speaks Mandarin. I've never learned it. How should I just know it? Marriage is no different. Just because it's common doesn't mean that it's healthy. And just because it's common doesn't mean that everybody should just know how to do it. Mandarin is a very common language as well. Not necessarily something that I've had exposure or education around. So we've got to get rid of these myths that we should just know how to overcome trauma, how to overcome unhealthy habits, how to overcome resentment. We build an entire reality around this narrative. Let's take a quick pause. I want to ask you a serious question. What are you feeding your mind right now? If it's social media, are you tired of doom scrolling through the angry comment sections and political rants yet? What if you use that time to actually fix your marriage? Welcome to the free married and connected school community. It's like social media, but without the ads, without the judgment, and without the noise. Just real self-paced tools that get you out of that roommate phase starting today. Inside, you get an exact blueprint for a weekly State of the Union meeting with your spouse. We're cutting mental load, we're stopping miscommunications, and we're breaking that exhausting loop of doom argument once and for all. Plus, you get instant access to workshops on overcoming resentment and bringing the actual fun back into your marriage. We have a dedicated space just for guys jumping into Forging Fortitude. It's a 10-week intensive to help you step into your masculine leadership and become the husband and man that God called you to be. And for ladies joining Edifying Eden, we're stepping out of that controlling, nagging era into our soft, nurturing feminine era. Even if your husband hasn't taken the reins yet. Either way, you can take responsibility for your side of the street. Stop scrolling the internet and start investing in your home. The community is 100% free with options to purchase certain courses. Click the link in the show notes and join the married and connected school community today. I'll see you inside. Dr. Vitz teaches us that we are often emotionally intoxicated. Just like being drunk on alcohol or drugs, you can also be drunk on your own emotions, on your own righteousness, on your own partner's wrongness. Just like you can mentally obsess over a food or a drug, or I need this, I need this, I need this. Sometimes your brain tells you that you need to focus on how wrong your partner is as well. We build an entire reality around this narrative and we gather evidence for it all day long. The cliche that you hear all the time, that's what you focus on grows, that's how it happens. When you focus on they didn't do this right, your brain says, ooh, let's let's look for more things they didn't do right. And that's what you do all day long. That's how the practice of gratitude starts out with, okay, name three things that you're grateful for this morning. And then all day you're looking for more things to be grateful for. And after a little bit of time, you can walk outside and just be absolutely brought to tears over the gratitude for a beautiful tree or for a perfect sunset or for warm weather. True emotional sobriety means recognizing that your resentment is a signal that you are out of alignment. It means that you have stopped taking responsibility for your own joy, for your own peace, for your own life. And you've outsourced that job to your spouse. Because remember, whatever controls your emotions controls you. So when they inevitably fail at the job that they were never meant to have in the first place, you resent them for it. It's an expectation. And expectations are always going to lead to premeditated resentments. Always. And listen, I have been there. I used to be the most resentful, most judgmental human being on the face of this planet. I have sat at a kitchen table exhausted after putting kids to bed, answering questions about how many Americans are afraid of rats, or why do sharks have tongues? Because it's not like they chew their food anyway, and looking around at a life that I helped build and feeling nothing but a toxic brew of anger and exhaustion and hate. And I waited and waited for my external circumstances to change so that I could finally feel better. And the freedom didn't come until I realized that I was the one holding the keys here. I was the one holding the keys to my this emotional prison that I had basically locked myself in. You have to stop blaming your partner for your internal landscape. And this leads to the most dangerous symptom of resentment of all that I just mentioned. And that is judgment. Now I want you to write this down. If you're driving, obviously don't come back to this, listen to it again later, and write it on a sticky note and stick it on your bathroom mirror. Judgment is not benign, it is born of resentment. We live in a culture that absolutely glorifies judgment. Look at the world around us. Look at cancel culture. This person's canceled, that person's canceled, uh, why is she? Ugh. Every time somebody hears the word, the name Kardashian, somebody else scoffs or gets this look of disgust on their face, like they just ate rotten broccoli. Look at Facebook or any other social media. The sheer unadulterated disgust that people hurl at each other online, in politics, in the media. We have normalized looking at human beings, deciding that they are fundamentally flawed and writing them off. We celebrate it. We call it holding people accountable, but really, it's just self-righteous disgust. And what happens? We take the exact same cultural macro level toxicity and we bring it into our bedrooms. And now we have that same micro-level toxicity for our spouses. When you harbor resentment, you cannot look at your spouse neutrally. Every single thing they do is filtered through a lens of judgment, which is an emotionally triggered behavior. So in emotional sobriety, the way this works is you have, if we're gonna, if we're gonna reverse engineer this, that judgment is an emotionally triggered behavior that is based on a predominant accompanying negative emotion, a pain, which then leads to a feeling, which then leads to a filter, which, and again, we're going backwards here, which then leads to a common trauma and due self-belief. You think they're disgusting because on some level you think you're disgusting. Every single thing that your partner does that is filtered through a lens of negativity first comes from a lens of judgment from you. If they forget to take out the trash, it's not because they're tired or forgetful. Your judgment says, Oh, it's because they don't respect me. If they want to relax on Saturday or even in the evenings after a hard day of work, your judgment says, Well, they didn't work as hard as me, so they're just lazy and selfish. Dr. John Gottman, who has studied couples for decades, can predict divorce with over 90% accuracy. And you want to know what the number one predictor is? It's not fighting. It's not even anger. It's contempt. Contempt is judgment that is weaponized. It's this idea that, well, I don't want to be a statistic that gets a divorce. So I'm just gonna look at you like you're less than me. It's the eye rolls, it's the looking down at your partner, it's the deep sigh of disgust. That is what Gottman calls the sulfuric acid for love. When you allow your resentment to live in your heart, it even says in this in the Bible that divorces are caused by hardness of heart. Well, hardness of heart is resentment. That's exactly what it is. And when you allow that within yourself, it gives birth to judgment. And judgment matures into contempt. You cannot be connected to someone that you're constantly judging. It's impossible. You cannot have a happy, easy marriage with someone that you view with disgust. You are literally dissolving the foundation of your marriage with the acid of your own unsobriety. And that's exactly what Dr. Vitz helps with. So how do we stop? How do we cure this hangover of resentment and step into our emotional sobriety? Well, first, you have to drop the rock. You have to mourn the loss of your victimhood. I know that sounds harsh, but it is the truest thing that I can tell you. You have to give up the addiction and you have to give up the satisfying feeling of being the one who was wronged and start having humility. Humility is the birth of everything great and positive and wonderful in your life. So instead of looking at your partner and saying, okay, you didn't do X, Y, and Z. Instead, you have to look at yourself and say, Okay, was this actually an unspoken agreement that I had? That I wanted them to take out the trash, but I never actually asked them to take out the trash? Okay, I did ask them to take out the trash, but was I clear In my communication? Or did I just say, hey, can you take out the trash? Or did I say, hey, would you mind taking the trash out tomorrow morning on your way out the door? And even if I did ask, hey, can you take out the trash on your way out the door in the morning? Did I factor in that they had their hands full? That they got up, that they snuggled with me a little bit longer and didn't get out of bed right away. And then they were kind of rushing out the door just to get to work on time. So they forgot the trash in the mix of all that. Do I give my partner the benefit of the doubt? Have I ever forgot the trash? Have I ever been asked to do something and then I forgot it? Have I ever made mistakes? And if I have made mistakes, but not lately, am I sure, 100% sure, that I'm never going to make another mistake again? Because if you can answer all of those, then you start to see how you're no better than your partner. And if you still think that you're better than your partner, are you right up there next to Jesus? Because like I'm, we probably need to meet. Because I know for myself and for everybody else that I've coached, hundreds and hundreds of couples over the last eight years, if you truly come from a place of humility and you start taking 100% ownership of your emotional state, then the next time that you feel that flash of resentment, you literally stop walking. It's like somebody knocked the wind out of you. And then you can start asking yourself, what is the story that I'm telling myself right now? What is the narrative? What is the common trauma-induced self-belief? Is it that I'm unloved? Is it that I'm completely alone? Is it that I'll always be alone? Is it that I'm going to be abandoned? Or that I'm stupid, or that I'm not enough, or that I'm not lovable, or that life is hard and it will always be hard. Or that there's never enough time, money, love, energy, resources, whatever. Catch the judgment before it even leaves your mouth. Even better if you catch the judgment before it even builds a complete thought in your head. Then you can start to apply Gottman's antidote to contempt. You build a culture of appreciation. Not too long ago, I had a couple come to me and the wife was pissed. Oh my God, she was so pissed. And she was like, We've been in therapy for like two years. And all she ever keeps telling me is that we just need to tell each other three things that we love about each other every day. I can't even look at him. I hate him so much. I can't even look about look at him. I was like, all right, then why are you married? She's like, Well, we have kids together, and like I've been a stay-at-home mom for the last however many years, and you know, I don't want to get a divorce. Okay, but do you want to be with this person? And she was like, Well, yeah, I mean, he's a good dad. I was like, okay, have you ever thought that he's a good husband? Well, yeah. I said, okay, if you felt like he's he's a good spouse at some point, you can get back to that. If you've had love at some point, you can get back to that. She's like, okay, but why does this therapist just keep telling us to tell our partner whatever we like about them three times a day? And so I explained it to her that the contempt and the judgment and all of that, but it's called negative sentiment override. Your brain has quite literally been overridden by all of the negative things that you think about your partner. And that's what resentment is. That's why you get this feeling of, like, oh my God, I can't even look at them because I just want to punch them in the face. Again, you can't feel deep resentment and deep gratitude at the exact same time. It doesn't work. Your human brain cannot hold space for both of those in the same time. So you have to aggressively look for what your partner is doing right. It's like driving a truck down a dirt road that's been rained on for the last six days. It's gonna start to leave some pretty deep grooves. The more that you vent, the more that you complain to your partner, the more you complain to your mother or your friend, the deeper those grooves are going. But when you aggressively yank the steering wheel over to yank that truck out of those deep grooves and start making a new path where there is positivity and lightness, that is where you start to find strengths. And it's not about sugarcoating bad behavior. Let's let's get that straight right now. It's about regulating yourself. If there is a real issue, then preferences need to be discussed. Boundaries need to be set. This is where a lot of people get tripped up here, though, too, is when you say a boundary and they say you can't follow half-naked girls on Instagram. That's not a boundary. That's a preference mixed with an ultimatum. Well, you can't go out with the guys unless I go too. That's an ultimatum. And you're now being their mother. Nobody wants to sleep with their mother. Okay, conversations need to be had. Boundaries don't have anything to do with the other person. It's about what you're gonna do. There's a fence around your yard individually. Hey, I'm not going to be in a relationship where my spouse gets validation from following half-naked girls on Instagram or any other social media outlet, or watches porn, or has an OnlyFans account. Not doing it. But then here's the thing: the boundary is a fence around your yard and it talks about what you're going to do, but there's also a consequence there. Boundaries without consequences don't mean anything at all. The other part of this is that when you set that consequence, you by God better be willing to actually move into that consequence. And that's the thing that I probably see the most is that people will do a great job of setting a boundary. Hey, I'm not gonna be yelled at. So the next time that this happens, I'm gonna leave the conversation. I'm gonna leave the house. I'm gonna go stay at my mom's. I'm gonna go get a hotel room. Because I work with so many couples that have dealt with infidelity, I see this a lot too. Is well, if you cheat again, I'm out. Well, then they cheat again, and it's okay, Cam, well, you know, we're here to see you because I said that I would leave, but I don't really want to leave. Well, guess what, friend? We teach people how to treat us. So when you set a boundary like that and you say, I'm not going to do X if this happens, or if this happens, I'm going to do this, and you don't actually follow through with that, you just taught your spouse, they're not actually gonna do it. They're never gonna leave. I can do whatever I want. You have to regulate yourself. You have to be able to self-soothe. And if you have an anxious attachment, you're not great at doing that. If you're if you have a dismissive avoidant attachment, you are fantastic at self-soothing. Almost too good. Takes you a while, but you shut down emotionally and typically you stonewall in the process. If you have an anxious attachment, you need someone to co-regulate with you. And that's where you start. You start regulating yourself. You can only have boundaries effectively when you are emotionally sober. When you approach your spouse from a place of grounded, calm ownership rather than this place of frantic drama, resentful judgment, that's when the entire dynamic shifts. You stop attacking their character and you start addressing the issues as me and you versus the issue instead of me versus you versus the issue. Now, I told you that this episode was gonna be a gut punch. And recognizing that you are the architect of your own misery is a really hard pill to swallow. But do you also see the beauty in it? Do you see that when you overcome that resentment, that's when the entire dynamic of your marriage starts shifting? When you start learning the tools of not only overcoming your resentment, but also learning to do things in a more emotionally mature way, asking for what you need, not assuming, not making unspoken agreements, but rather spoken agreements. Do you see the absolute freedom that comes from that? It's like feeling suffocated in a prison of your marriage versus having this free, trusting, having the best sleepover with your best friend every single night kind of energy. Now, if you feel like your resentment was caused by your spouse, you would be powerless until they decided to change. But because your resentment is generated by you, that means that you have the power to dismantle it. The best news of all of this is that it is physically impossible for a marriage to stay the same if one person in that marriage radically changes. I know I've lived it, I've helped hundreds of couples do it. You have the power to change the entire temperature of your home just by choosing the emotional sobriety component of this. You can literally wake up tomorrow morning, look at the person sleeping next to you, and decide, I'm not gonna do this anymore. I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna sit here in judgment every single day. I'm not gonna sit here believing that I am better than you in any shape or form. I want to be a partner. I want to be part of a team. I want to love you again. I want to be married to you. And you can decide to forgive them for being a flawed human being because humility, so are you. And you can choose connection over being right. I know this is hard work. I did it for an entire year to become emotionally sober. That's part of what Dr. Vitz and I talk about on the podcast that's coming up about maturity. How incredibly immature that I was. If you go back to like episode 72-ish versus now, you can hear it. You can hear the difference in my journey. And I promise you that reprogramming your brain away from resentment and away from judgment is like learning to walk all over again. Now, if you are listening to this and you're thinking, I hear you, Cam, but I am way too deep in it. The resentment's too thick, the roommate phase has lasted way too long, and I don't know how to find my way back. Please hear me. Please hear me. And this is not just a sales pitch. This is a, I promise you, you cannot do this alone. This is exactly why I do what I do. This is exactly why Dr. Vitz does what she does. We work with couples who are drowning in this exact same dynamic because we've both been through it. And we help you pull the poison out so that you can actually become best friends again. If you need someone to guide you through this, to hold your feet to the fire with truth and love, but also hold your hand while you walk through it, please send me a message, coaching at recognizingpotential.com. You can literally just email me the word resentment, and I will send you a link to book a call. My email is in the show notes. We will get on a call, we will figure exactly where the breakdown is and get you to a place of emotional safety and deep connection again. And if you want to start surrounding yourself with people who are doing this work too, who are choosing sobriety over resentment, that is where my free school community comes in. That link is also in the show notes. I am in there every single day doing the work, building out courses and workshops and resources and all kinds of things where you can just go in and get immediate help for your marriage so that you can start building a marriage that you are deeply grateful for immediately. Now, if this episode struck a nerve, if it gave you that uncomfortable but necessary gut punch, please share it with somebody who needs it. Leave a review for the podcast. It helps us reach more couples who are silently struggling. And before we sign off today, I want you to know that you are entirely capable of cleaning up your own side of the street. You are capable and deserving of a beautiful connected marriage. I've got you. And until next week, stay married and connected. This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional counseling or therapy. Every couple story is unique, so take what's helpful and leave the rest. By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge that neither I, Cameron Thompson, Alaricki, married and connected, or recognizing potential coaching are responsible for any outcomes related to what you apply from this show. Especially if you are not a client of mine.